Paloma: notes & quotes



gailytoldtales supports the reform-minded goals of the Donaldson Adoption Institute, the "independent and objective adoption research and policy organization... address(ing) the needs of all those touched by adoption – first/birth parents, adoptees and adoptive parents." []

At the beginning of Paloma’s flight, donated books to DAI to make sure that they would end up in the hands of service-providers and families who could use them.

from April Dinwoodie
Chief Executive of the Donaldson Institute, and Adopted Person --

Paloma the Possible delightfully captures a child’s exploration of identity and belonging. The book, and what it represents, is a treasure for all children and families but especially to the adoption community, as it masterfully and simply brings to life the beauty and complexity of our shared adoption experience.”

from Laura Guarino
Lower School Coordinator and Director of Early Childhood
Children’s Programs, Bank Street College of Education --

“What a wonderful resource for parents and teachers looking to explore the important conversation of how a family might be formed. As an early childhood educator for over 30 years, it is obvious to me that the complexity of this conversation has grown exponentially over the years - while our resources for helping children understand the process remains woefully lacking. This beautiful book contributes mightily to that discussion!

How poignant that this rich piece of fiction is also the result of a collaborative process between a mother and her daughter whose own family was formed through adoption. Paloma’s story highlights the thoughts of a little girl who wistfully expresses her musings about her birth family and the powerful love and attachment she feels for her adoptive family. The textured collage illustrations are a visual delight, while the text offers the reader a profound glimpse into the journey of a child whose voice of longing and love are artfully woven throughout the narrative.

From the perspective of an educator, this book provides a resource for teachers and families whose job it is to embrace this topic head on, so that all of our children can be supported in understanding this unique evolution of identity development. How fortunate we are to have this book as a resource to guide a discussion that deserves to be approached with the spaciousness and love so beautifully represented in this story. I will most certainly be ordering one for every classroom in my division! "

from Marya Baker
School Principal/NYC, Parent and Adoptee --

"Although this might seem like a children's book, it is really a family book, about the love that binds us together.

I wish that we'd had Paloma the Possible as a gentle and loving way to introduce self-identity and belonging into our family discussions. Paloma bravely asks questions that young adoptees are often afraid to ask.

As an educator and parent, I am drawn to the vibrant collages, the lively and fun play on words, and the strength of Paloma and her quest to connect her past to her present. This book provides an entry point into the deeper questions about family. It is perfect for school read-alouds and as a fixture in classroom libraries. Paloma gives voice to the desire in all adoptees to fit in to the family who chose us, but sill acknowledges the need to connect to the family who let us go. The importance of the book's message transcends the world of adoption and encompasses the unconditional love and individuality that makes a family. I love [its] simple beauty...and rich imagination. Paloma's winged journey so beautifully illuminates the issues around adoption, identity, and individuality."

from Kacy Ames-Heron, LCSW
Psychotherapist, Author and Adoptee --

"Paloma the Possible so beautifully reflects the questions and fantasies that many of us who are adopted have about where we belong, where we have come from, who our family is and who we are.

As a story, it is an incredibly important one for children who are adopted and for adoptive families, to provide awareness and reassurance that hopes, questions and search (for a sense of connection and identity) can be simultaneously packed with meaning, nuances, pain and fun. And most importantly, it shows what is a normative process for anyone who is adopted. Paloma's journey is uniquely hers and it reminds us that it is imperative to validate each of our own unique journeys in life as well. This story itself is particularly meaningful because it was developed and written through the collaborative work of a mother and daughter who are touched by adoption. Their journey in writing this story gives us the opportunity to share in the narrative of Paloma and to dream of our own possibilities."